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The f-word was there for all to see. And a few variations of the b-word. Then, suddenly, out popped a middle-age man from a bar, bulging out of Superman briefs and nothing else.
On the other side, a passenger rolled down his car window and gestured for a street-walking woman to climb aboard.
For two kids sheltered in the world of American Girl and Disney, this must have seemed otherworldly.
But it was just another day on Duval Street in Key West.
I spent nearly a year working in the Southernmost City several years before becoming a family guy. Last weekend, I returned as a dad, taking the two princesses to see the gingerbread homes, soak up some history, wander the narrow streets of Old Town, watch the sun melt into the Gulf, inhale the jasmine-scented nights.
Yet with all of that came the crude slogans of the many T-shirt shops lining the main drag, drunk-drenched people spilling out of the bars, streetwise fashions that often don't include undergarments.
It's all part of the scene here, and Dad didn't attempt to shelter the young and the innocent.
What's a dad to do? Cover their eyes?
When these girls were younger -- they are now 9 and and 11 -- they lived a pretty sheltered life. We hid the newspaper most days to avoid the splatter of crime and war and sex at the breakfast table. We pretty much skipped over discussing the horrors of 9/11. We didn't watch the local TV news in front of them.
For younger princess, walking up and down Duval Street wasn't much more than a pain. She was tired, had to go, and wanted to be carried. A cup of ice cream provided some succor as did the sunset celebration at Mallory Square.
For older princess, her eyes glanced furtively into the gift-shop windows. When we stopped for dinner, she began sobbing. The crude and offensive slogans splayed across the tacky tourist T-shirts got to her.
We simply told her: If you're upset, that just means you're a good person. Then we told her about freedom of speech and commerce and let her know that she was free to look the other way if something she spots upsets her.
The next day, everything was sugar cones and sprinkles once again. The girls discovered the innocent delights at the Hemingway House -- ignoring the author's violent suicide, his insatiable romantic appetites, his fascination with a barroom urinal, big fish and wild game.They just wanted to pet the six-toed cats.
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This is such a dilemma for parents today because everything is so ... out there. It's just in more concentrated form in Key West! As nerve-wracking as it can be, I can't help but think that sometimes these things in our faces are good because they force us to have conversations that might not happen otherwise.
Of course, you don't want the kids using the F word, but they should know that it is vulgar, and that it refers to a natural process. They do need to know the process by about age 10, or even earlier, depending on how comfortably you are with that particular process. I didn't know about the process until I was about 13, and I found out at school, what a surprise!!--that was a great parental mistake of the 1960's. The European and Latin parents are more confortable with sexuality than are American parents. We have been so prudish over the years, and it shows in our kids sexual behavior.Hey, here's a news flash for the parent complaining about vulgarities in Key West, DON'T TAKE 9 AND 11 YEAR OLD GIRLS TO KEY WEST! Its like complaining about fattening foods while frequenting Dunkin' Donuts. Aside from that, if your 11 year old is "sobbing" over the vulgar t-shirts in Key West, lord knows how she's going to make through high school, assuming that you're not home schooling your little "princess".Dude - did you just craw out from under the Ozzie and Harriet rock? Get a grip on life. Like it or nor, Key West is part of the real world; as unseemly, gritty and at times disgusting as it may be. The sooner your children (they are not princesses) are taught how to deal with the messy stuff they will encounter in life, the better they will be able to adjust when they are on their own. Use Key West a sa lesson in life - - beautifule place but inhabited by what you consider possibly less than desirable people. (That is how I feel about Paris and the French.) Grow up.

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